Grammy nominated front-man for Christian Rock band As I Lay Dying, Tim Lambesis, has confessed that he and his band fake their faith to be accepted into the Church community. Days before learning of his six-year sentence for the attempted murder of his wife, Lambesis told The Alternative Press that he is not a Satanist, he is an Atheist and has been for a while. He claims faking your faith is common in the Christian rock scene and that many Christian bands fake their faith solely for the record sales.
Lambesis said their band toured with more Christian bands that weren’t really practicing Christians than bands that were. According to Tim during his 12 years of touring with As I Lay Dying he figures about one in 10 of the self-described Christian bands he toured with were actually Christian bands. He admitting he was the third member of the band to stop being Christian, but they continued the facade to fool parents.
Lambesis explained, “If you say, ‘This is what I believe, you can count on this. If you believe the same things, I’m on your team.’ A lot of Christian parents said, ‘Yes, you can buy this As I Lay Dying CD, because they’re a Christian band.’ They don’t even think to actually check the lyrics.” He went on to say, “Those kids need to hear about real life, because they live in a bubble.”
Tim describes meeting their devout fans as being awkward saying, “When kids would want to pray with us after shows, I’d be like ‘Um, go ahead and pray.’ I would just let them pray. I’d say ‘Amen’. If praying while I have my hand on their shoulder makes them feel better, I don’t want to take that away from them.” Continuing he explained, “When they would specifically ask me to pray for something, I’d say ‘I don’t really like to pray out loud, but I’ll take that with me to the bus.”
Lambesis said the band discussed whether to keep taking money from the Christian market. He admits to being afraid of effecting As I Lay Dying sales, which in turn, would affect his overall income. Tim said he first started moving away from Christianity while in college stating, “In the process of trying to defend my faith, I started thinking the other point of view was the stronger one.”
A month before Lambesis’ arrest, AP’s Ryan J. Downey asked him about a video he posted addressing fans who felt his side project, Pyrithion, was Satanic. Lambesis replied, “As far as the YouTube video I did explaining Pyrithion’s lyrics … I was trying to put out a fire.” He had a strategy. The band felt they owed it to the fans to be honest with their change of views. Two of the songs on their record were about negative themes he wasn’t supposed to write about for As I Lay Dying, ideas that life has no purpose and there was no meaning.
Last spring the 33-year-old singer was in a custody dispute with his wife Megan over their three children. While at the gym one day, he asked a friend if they knew of someone he could hire to kill his wife. The alarmed trainer contacted local police. They arranged for an undercover detective to meet with the singer. Lambesis agreed to pay $1,000 in cash for the murder and another $19,000 once the job was done. Lambesis also provided photos, security codes, alibis, and the dates of when it was his turn to have the children.
As I Lay Dying’s members started a new band with another singer. In May they issued a press release stating, “The legal process is taking its course and we have no more information than you do. There are many unanswered questions, and the situation will become clearer in the coming days and weeks. We’ll keep you informed as best we can.” Shortly afterwards, however, all tour dates were cancelled.