Unfortunately we live in a culture where, too often than not, you befriend people who want to believe the world revolves around them. They tend to think very highly of themselves and treat others as if their opinions don’t matter and what they have to say is not as important.
If you’re under the impression that a good friend is someone who agrees with you, then you have no idea what a best friend is for. Best friends aren’t yes-men. They aren’t there to just cosign your agenda, opinion or mentality. If someone cares about you. it is their responsibility to be completely honest with you. This means they couldn’t possibly agree with you all the time.
The way people tend to manipulate others into agreeing with them is by having adverse reactions to those who don’t agree with them. It’s a way of being passive aggressive with those in their circles who may have differences of opinion. Dominant personalities have a tendency to think everyone should agree with them according to their narcissistic state of mind. They tend to make their friends feel very uncomfortable when their friends try to correct their bad behavior. A good best friend knows this and will speak the truth anyway. “Narcissism is a less extreme version of Narcissistic Personality Disorder. Narcissism involves cockiness, manipulativeness, selfishness, power motives, and vanity-a love of mirrors. Related personality traits include: Psychopathy, Machiavellianism. Narcissiststend to have high self-esteem.” According to Psychology Today.
Friends have a tendency to be afraid to speak up to someone who may make them feel intimidated if they speak their mind or give their opinion. It’s very important that friends find their voice within the relationship and learn that they must speak up no matter the situation. It’s very important to stand up for yourself and what is right within any relationship. If the other person does not respect your opinion then maybe you should question whether that person is really your friend or just keeping the friendship to keep up appearances.
When you care about someone you want them to know the truth and live in the truth. There’s nothing worse than someone who lives in their own isolated world of self delusion. The reason best friends exist are to be the voices of reason in your life and maintain balance in your world. Most people are initially resistant to constructive criticism but when given an opportunity to absorb the information they have a chance to digest the information, reflect on their behavior and hopefully learn something new about themselves that has room room for improvement. On the other hand, a friend who demands you agree with them is not a good friend in the first place. Everyone’s entitled to their own opinion. If you have the kind of friend who has the audacity to make you feel as if you’re not entitled to your own opinion and thoughts then maybe you should realize they are not friends worth having.