This article contains a real and unexplainable event in my life. Names and relationships are changed to protect family privacy.
I often feel guilty for receiving signs just prior or during a loved one’s crossing over, however, as an empath and a sensitive, it is not something I can control. It is not that the dear one nearing-death loves me more than their own children or other loved ones…some of us are just more susceptible and open to the contact through near-death experience awareness and consciousnesses. This does not mean that a loved one may show signs to others who are much dearer to their hearts.
On Sunday, around 8:30 a.m., I heard my cell phone with those all too familiar bells ringing. I believed that I had left it in the kitchen and wondered why it was ringing so loudly. I didn’t want to get up and laid there in bed for a few minutes. Too late, I was already awake from the ringing bells.
Reluctantly departing from the comfy bed, I walked to the kitchen and made my coffee. As usual, I took this quiet morning coffee time and stood at my kitchen window, thanking God for the beautiful sunshine, my family and all the blessings in my life. My prayers have recently been for loved ones who are very ill – especially for my dear great-aunt Alma who was very ill in the hospital.
I prayed for relief of Alma’s severe pain and comfort and healing for this deeply loved and loving, spiritual woman. She had been a part of our lives for 44 years. If I could have asked God to send the perfect angel on earth to be my great-aunt, she was just that. She loved us all so deeply, never spoke ill of anyone and never interfered in anyone’s relationship troubles and was the sweetest shoulder on which to cry.
Her four sons and two daughters were her heart. As great-nieces and nephews, we were welcomed with loving, open arms, feeling always blessed by her. Alma’s grandchildren and great grandchildren were her diamonds – her delight. No matter what, she also cherished and was so proud of all of them. You could tell by her beautiful soft smile, hugs and laughter. At 8:45 a.m., my prayers halted by my husband’s cell phone ringing its standard ring.
We had been worried and praying in the past weeks for great-aunt Alma, in a nearby medical center hospital. She fell several times before and was in the hospital for a surgical operation to repair a cracked and compressed vertebra. She was alert and the pain medication was helping her. In fact, they had to laugh with her, as she would say the funniest things…and once pointed and said, “Look at them!” and laughed too. When I heard that, I didn’t laugh…I had heard those words before, during three shared nearing-death experiences. I tried to chalk it up to Alma’s medication.
However, as days passed, she developed an infection. Now, there would be no operation until the infection was under control. Then, another setback – a day or so later, her liver began to fail, halting any operation and stopping all pain medication. She had been in terrible pain, as we family members would all witness for many days. They could not give her pain medication because of the infection and her failing liver function. We all sat with her at different times, trying to comfort her intense pain somehow. At one point during many severe pain moments, she would frantically reach out to hold onto the rail or the soft wedge foam pillow. I was sitting beside her when one of those moments occurred.
Grasping her hands and letting her pull tightly against my hands seemed to help. She would relax for a moment, trying to sleep, but not for long. Each time the pain hit, she would grab my hands tighter and pull to help ease the pain. I prayed while holding her hands, as so many of her sons and daughters had done before. Each time, I concentrated on sending every bit of my energy and healing from my hands to hers. At one point, after the pain stopped for moments, she slightly opened one eye, and whispered my name. I was so happy that she knew I was there. Yesterday, they gave her sleep medication. At last, she was able to sleep uninterrupted for five or more hours.
Any phone call on my husband’s phone on a Sunday morning meant something very important was happening. My husband was still asleep and I was deep in my quiet time with my Lord. His phone began to ring. Answering his phone, Alma’s son, John, spoke with a shaking voice and told me that Alma had just passed away a few minutes ago. Bursting into tears, I tried to compose myself between sobbing. “How? What? Were you there?” No, his brother, Jacob had just called him and Jacob was there when it happened. Did someone else call me, too? I thought about my phone and the ringing bells at 8:30 a.m. that I had ignored that morning, letting it go to voice mail.
John began to relay Jacob’s words. Alma was downstairs for more testing. When they brought her back to her room, she was very agitated and in pain. The nurses ushered Jacob out of the room to “get her back in bed and clean her up.” A few moments later, a nurse came out of the room and told him that she had passed away. At the time, it would have been around 8:35 a.m. that she died.
I returned to our bedroom, seeing my husband sleeping so soundly and dreading to tell him. He might have well been Alma’s son. Laying beside him and holding him to gently wake him, he saw that I had been crying. Half asleep, he jumped and said, “What’s happened? I almost whispered, “Aunt Alma has passed, baby…” He immediately called John, then dressed and went to the hospital. I felt that it would be unbearable for me to see her then – or was I feeling something else?
The phone thing kept bothering me. Who had called me that morning? Searching for my phone in my usual purse drop areas, the kitchen, by the computer and in the bathroom, I was amazed to find my purse with my phone inside, right by the bed! No wonder it was so loud. It was then that I noticed the phone was on silent. I turned it back on and wondered how on earth it could ring, being on silent. “Check the calls,” ran through my mind. Surely, there was a logical explanation.
Again, to my shock, there were absolutely no calls listed on my phone for the morning…none! How could that be when it rang for so long – on silent – and, now my sweet Alma had just passed away? I realized that my phone ringing had to come from somewhere else. Was it a goodbye from a shared nearing-death journey? Dare I believe that this was a parting sign during Alma’s nearing-death and crossing over?
I’ve had those signs so many times before, also from a distance. Just prior to my beloved great-grandmother Annie Louise Lafitte Hungerbeeler passed, there were three knocks on a door that opened to my closed garage. Opening the door, no one there and the garage was closed. Again, three more knocks as I stood at the now closed door. No one was there. This time, with my hand on the doorknob, ready to catch the knocking culprit, I opened the door on the second knock. No one was around! Immediately, I felt a calmness and warmth. Within minutes, my grandmother called to tell me that my great-aunt had died.
Since as far back as the oral history of my maternal family side, including brothers and sisters and our children, it was always obvious that we inherited an awareness of changes or tragedies affecting our loved ones.
We feel or recognize signs before an event. Often, during and even days or months later we will have a very vivid dream, a vision, a picture lost for so long, a beautiful feather left in an unusual place or in our paths, the recurring visit of a dragonfly, bluebird, ladybugs, butterflies and more, which appear in groups or stop to land on us. They sit beside us, unafraid and exhibiting unusually close behavior. Actually, it is a beautiful sight and an immediate peaceful feeling and knowledge of the visit being a sign from our Lord that He and our loved one is there to strengthen and comfort us.
There is an awkward side to telling our experiences – many others have a feeling of “why you?” or “why didn’t they come to me?” Perhaps they did. However, you were not aware or ready to accept the sign. It does not mean that we, as sensitives, empaths and near-death survivors, are more important to the dying loved one. If anything, it is shared to let you know that their souls are always around and it may be God’s way of enhancing the connection of comfort and peace. Yes, there is a world beyond. We, who have sensitivity or have had a near-death experience, have touched a small part of that realm and are often used only as messengers to help open other loved ones’ eyes and hearts to the possibility of recognizing those amazing signs.
Alma crossed over around 8:35 a.m. My cell phone began to ring and ring at around 8:30 a.m. John called to tell us that she was gone around 8:45 a.m. How could my “silent” cell phone ring for so long, without a listing of anyone calling that morning? It must be from energy, not of this earth, but from another realm. I would love to believe it was Alma’s energy, trying to communicate through someone who she knew would recognize those signs. I can only wonder… but I do believe we can receive those kinds of messages – “It’s ok. And, it is a beautiful place that I go to.” From a near-death survivor (twice) and a witness in two shared NDE’s it seems very normal to me.
In my need for confirmation after many weeks, things were somewhat confirmed, although not planned. I was thrilled to see two of my friends, John E.L. Tenney and David M. Rountree in a new cable show, “Ghost Stalkers” on the Destination America network. Another part of the investigative team is Chad Lindberg. When I saw David online, I had to contact him and John to congratulate them on their amazing show. I am now, not just a friend and fan, but a groupie of the show!
As David and I talked, I just had to ask this well-known expert in the science of the paranormal, the question about my phone experience. Knowing that David is a very honest, completely scientific, quantum mechanics researcher and inventor, he would give me a straight answer and a debunking if needed. David M. Rountree is a graduate of Princeton P.H.D., Quantum Mechanics, 2012. He is also the CEO, Chief Executive Producer at Wolfhawk Moon Productions, author, lecturer, Paranormal Researcher and Talent at Ideal Event Management and Executive Director at Scientific Paranormal Investigative Research Information and Technology. He has dedicated his life to the research of the paranormal through scientific research using cutting edge technology and has a no-nonsense scientific approach to paranormal claims.
According to David, “some reports point to the possibility of spirit energy affecting cell phones and other devices. There is evidence to support this theory.” If David acknowledges that, I am now certain that my theory is correct.
Godspeed, our beloved Alma. Our Lord holds you in his arms forever. Fly with the angels, run through the beauty of Heaven with William, your husband, picnic with your mother and father and rest in peace knowing how much we all loved you. Thank you for the sign of your love for us all.
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