Part I dealt with a half dozen traits children indicated they valued in their mothers. Part II is a continuation of these traits:
1.Patience. A child like to know that the person he/she loves recognizes their shortcomings and will be patient with her/him when they try hard to meet with her expectations. When their grades are poor or do not meet their parents’/mom’s expectations, a child generally come to believe mom will be the one to understand when they are working hard to please the parents. The child will look to mom to not hold a grudge against her/him when effort is involved.
2.Cheerfulness. Few aspects are more important to a child than a cheerful, happy mother. No matter what happens, a child, regardless of gender, looks to their mother to supply this emotional warmth. When a mother is moody or out of sorts, it is generally reflected in their child.
3.Friendly to friends and peers. A child wants to know that her/his mother welcomes their friends and peers to their home. This is especially important when a child reaches school age as friends and peers become an important influence in their life. It helps build a child’s trust in her/his mother. It also establishes a sense of security that home is a great place to be when mom is there.
4.Helpfulness. When mom is close to her child or children and avails herself to be helpful, many children report contentment. They indicate this when their mother becomes their ideal mother. When things are going their way, life is good and a child is able to do okay, and not consulting mom for assistance is great! But knowing mom is there ready, willing and able to help is important to a child—even when a mother reefers to her child or children as “my baby”. This may appear embarrassing, but a child, regardless of gender; love this aspect about their mothers.
5.Achievements. When there is a mother-child love, a child boasts about her/his mother’s skills or skill. “My mom makes chili mac to die for!” Most children who consider their mother as important to her or him want others to know it!
6.Availability. To a child there is no resentment of their mother working outside the home to earn a living for her family. Knowing that their mother is available either at home or by a cellphone is reassuring to children. For what children really want is to know is: “Can I find mom when I need her? Because this tells me she loves me.”
Every mother turns out to be ideal in each woman’s own unique and special way to her
child/children when she turns to unconditional love and the gifts endowed her by her Creator.