There are some people in this world that are just plain hard to deal with. Jealous people are often in this category because they are those ones that don’t want to share your happiness, they want to deny you of it. Everytime that you get something or achieve something, they are only increasing in their jealousy and feeling more resentful and angry. Jealousy is a very destructive and unhealthy emotion to have to deal with, whether you are the jealous person or the people around him or her.
It may help you to deal with jealous people if you can understand what is happening inside of this person. He or she is almost always among the most insecure of people, suffering with terribly low self-esteem. They are usually very intimidated by those around them that they perceive as being confident and successful. They cover it with negativity and sometimes, controlling behavior. The following are some ways that you can deal with those jealous individuals around you.
Often, we react to people a bit too harshly rather than thinking about why they are the way they are. This can lead us to being negative, just as they are. Instead of writing them off as irritating and aggravating people to be around, give them some honest compliments. They need it! Being jealous of other people is a definite sign of insecurity. When you give a compliment, you are effectively defusing some of the jealousy by making the jealous person feel more secure about him or herself.
When a jealous person is attempting to do something, he or she often seems that they are totally in control. This is almost always a front that the person is putting on so that others around them don’t know that they are feeling jealous of other people’s abilities and natural talents. They may have built a wall up around themselves that is difficult to get through. Giving them some encouragement is one way to begin to break down that wall. You may be able to get to know them on an entirely different level once that wall begins to fall.
Jealous people need to be reassured that they are just as worthy and good as the people around them. They feel like they don’t have as much, know as much, and are lacking in the things that they perceive others to have. Most of us like to be reassured from time to time and the jealous person can use it even more.
There are some days that we just don’t have what it takes to deal with these jealous people, who in reality, are really just needy and insecure people. When those days come, it is best to simply avoid them, if possible, especially if you have some good news to share that you don’t want to get a negative response to.
The most important part of dealing with jealous people is that too often forgotten skill of looking beyond the actual behavior and searching for the “why” of it. This is an act of compassion and caring on your part that can go a long ways toward changing the way that a jealous person reacts and responds towards you. It may not solve their personal issues that they are dealing with, but it may cultivate a friendship between the two of you that reaches beyond their jealousies and into their heart.