The clock is ticking louder than ever and Mister Right is nowhere in sight! What’s a modern girl to do? If she works for a truly modern company like Apple or Facebook, she can think about having her eggs frozen while she is still young, healthy, and fertile.
“When I first heard about egg freezing from a friend of mine 9 years ago, it made me cry,” said Carla (not her real name). “It was like she was saying that I would never find someone. This same friend had 3 children thanks to IVF, so maybe I shouldn’t have thought of it as being so weird coming from her.” It’s gone from discussions about test tube babies and playing God to a regular part of the conversation.
Yahoo reported that New York University Fertility Center rose to about 400 women freezing their eggs from just 5 women in 2005, according to Dr. Nicole Noyes, a fertility specialist there. She said she expects large companies and law firms will have to start offering a wider palette of fertility services to retain quality employees.
Perhaps you can interpret the concept of modern companies offering egg freezing as a Machiavellian attempt to suck away the best years of a woman’s life. Michelle Dewberry, winner of the TV show “The Apprentice” decided to take the plunge and freeze her eggs at 35. She wants a bit more time on her career and thinks her early 40s would be the ideal time for a family. “There are so many people saying that they just want to control you as an employee, that’s ridiculous, this company asked what is important to their employees and this is what they came up with.”
In truth, it’s just one of several fertility options offered by the most forward-thinking companies. Not only do they offer egg freezing, but also legal fees for adoption, IVF, egg donation, and surrogate fees which helps many different kinds of families. Fertility benefits are part of their health insurance, something which many companies do not offer on their health insurance plans. Sure, they will pay for exams, evaluations, and consultations; but, employees are out in the cold for IVF.
The modern world has changed from relatively early marriages straight out of high school to most people finishing college before thinking about getting married. While 22 or 23 is certainly young, many women struggle to meet Mr. Right, or cohabit without the benefit of marriage or resulting in children. The time isn’t right, the guy isn’t right, but people often settle in with no other options on the horizon.
Dewberry expressed the frustration keenly. “I don’t want that pressure in my life. I don’t want to meet a guy in a bar and instead of getting to know him, be trying to find out whether he wants kids, when he’d want them and his intentions for the future,” she said. “As a woman it’s really hard to decide when is the right time and who is the right person – freezing your eggs is almost an insurance policy. ‘But hopefully life will move on and nature will take it’s course and I’ll meet someone who is awesome, settle down with them, have a family and probably not even use these eggs.”
Vogue discussed the nitty-gritty details of how effective an option egg freezing really is. “Egg freezing technology has developed to the point where the chances of a successful pregnancy following in vitro fertilization with cryopreserved (frozen) eggs is similar to that of in vitro fertilization with fresh eggs. Recently published data suggest that pregnancy rates for women using eggs frozen before age 34 were nearly 50 percent while that decreased to 20–25 percent for women who froze eggs after age 38,” said Dr. Martha Noel. Those chances are pretty good ones.
But what every woman wants to know is if it’s right for her. And that can only be determined personally. The less expensive and more common it becomes, the greater the likelihood that women will turn to an option like egg freezing.