December is “focus on family month” when all of the cousins finally meet the new baby who was born last June or last January, everyone sees grandma for the last time, and someone announces that he or she is engaged to be married and that the wedding will be in four to six months. No one talks about it but the holidays are also the end of the calender year when companies lay off workers in order to get them off the payroll before they carry over into the following year. During the first two weeks of January their accountants close the books and after they finish then the company goes on a one week hiring spree, hiring the largest number of employees at one time then they will over the course of the rest of the year. The exception are those in seasonal industries. For example, in sunny California’s construction industry it’s February and March.
Unfortunately, a lot of couples breakup in December, probably more than the number who get engaged. One reason is because those who are stuck in pre-engagement limbo (overdue for getting married) are forced to reveal their status to their relatives. It’s very embarrassing for a women who is forced to explain to several different relatives the reason why her boyfriend, whom she has obviously committed to, hasn’t proposed yet. It’s a bitter reminder that she’s in a dead-end relationship. Courageous, brave women send the message to their boyfriends before the family reunion that they won’t allow it to happen, and that it’s time to decide whether to get engaged or breakup.
With that said, some men wait until New Year’s Eve. in order to usher in the new year with an engagement. For both women and jewelry stores alike it’s the moment of truth: If he doesn’t propose at midnight then he’s stalling and he may never. Most women are aware of this. To be brutally honest, the wisest thing to do is cut him loose in order to be free to search for someone else. Coincidentally, January is when single men register with dating websites such as eHarmony because one of their New Year’s Resolutions is to find The One. Matchmaking reaches it’s highest peak during the first three weeks of January and so it’s the best time to dump one’s partner who doesn’t want to get married and find someone who does.