If you are reading this article, you are probably faced with the same quandary that many men face every day; how will I get back the woman that I loved so much or dated for so many years? Did she have to leave me for that guy that decided to lift weights and has a body like Lou Ferrigno? Or, am I just that big of a puss that she wanted to find someone with more machismo that I could offer? Sit down and figure out just what it is about you that made her want to bail in the first place; it may be something completely innocent that had nothing to do with you, or, maybe it was all your fault. Either way, you can’t simply jump into your Pinto and run after her the second she runs out the door until you have fully assessed the situation for what it is and come up with a strong game plan.
In properly assessing the situation, there are many key points that you need to keep in mind: first, she got with you for a specific reason in the first place; whether the reason had to do with your fat bank account, your great charm or the fact you say things that make her melt on the spot. In order to win her back with the quickness, you’ll need to enhance your current skills and let her know that you are the man, the one, and the only person she’ll ever need again. While this may seem to be a lost cause at the moment, you first need to pick yourself up off the ground and dust yourself off and remember, sport – there is always a soft spot in every woman in the world, such as finding love quotes for her. For now, let her scurry on her way and catch up with her at the end of this short manual.
If you have to, take out a piece of paper and write some good stuff about her and yourself, then repeat with the bad. If you are the type of person that likes to point the finger and fly off the handle too quickly, this may not be the most frugal approach; however, you still need to keep in mind that she is away from you because of something that transpired. It is your moral duty as a man to stand up and make the decision you are not taking it, that you are not going down like some third-rate chump, and you’ll stand up for what is right and frugal. When you are done writing on your piece of paper, you will probably pull some things out of your subconscious thoughts you forgot existed, which is good. Iron yourself out first because, inevitably, you cannot make another person want you unless you completely want yourself first, and that’s just the facts, my man. Make this initial first step a thorough step in the process because she will eventually respect you more when you make the decision to respect yourself first which, apparently, was a lacking trait in your relationship.
When you have completed the phase where you stepped back and assessed the situation, you’ll see things through clear eyes again and have the knowledge and understanding on how to get things going properly again for yourself and your relationship. Don’t fear anything, stop being a wuss (if that was the issue) and simply decide if your fantasy football team should take precedence over your relationship with your awesome woman. Once you have decided to drop the bad habits and make a run at getting your girl back, you’ll feel a whole lot better that you stopped sheltering yourself with useless gadgetry and make-believe realms that you’ll never fully be a part of except within your mind. Get these things done quickly, because you need to get her back while the love and feelings are still fresh in her mind.
Gathering Some Info
Now that you have fully assessed the situation, we need to take all of this information and put together a well-orchestrated game plan that will get her back for good. Instead of just grabbing a ball bat and running towards whatever man she is with, you need to orchestrate a tactical, intelligent yet totally radical approach and, in doing this, you’ll need to do a little homework on the current situation using various sets of eyes, ears and mouths. Getting your woman back, if you want this done quickly, needs to be a group effort which is why we’ll be deploying your friends, relatives, strangers and anyone else that believes in love. Here is how we’re going to get started:
First, we need to find out exactly her reasons for leaving you in the first place which will come from her own best friend – she just doesn’t know it yet. (This slick maneuver shouldn’t be tried at home, kids). You are going to call over your best female friend who is a neutral party to both of you and she’ll be the scapegoat for your dirty little game; she simply will be going to wherever your ex is at and having a series of simple conversations, one of them being sorting out the reasoning behind her leaving you in the first place. As she goes on her merry way, she will be also told not to paint you out to be a depressed sap that is laying in your bed and crying like a lost puppy dog; she will make you out to be simply working and doing your own thing. When she is asked by your ex what you are doing, she’ll respond that she has not clue because you have been mysteriously gone doing whatever it is you do. So, off she goes into spy mode as your own personal Agent 99, collecting information that will be vital to your planning.
When she returns to you with a full report, any of the following should be expected out of her mouth: first, your ex left you because you had your head too far up some innate object’s ass too far to pay attention to her so she went to seek out attention; second, she left you because of your lack of being able to please her; third, she left you because you have no clearly defined goals in life except to work at a dead-end job which cannot bear much fruit in terms of having a family. No matter what she says, it is going to fall into one of those categories; if cheating was the issue, you’d probably benefit from knowing that later on in this mini-book we’ll cover that subject. If she reports back that your ex was asking about you and wanted to know what or who you were doing, there is still some interest in being with you for which this whole process just got easier.
She should have probably gathered a general consensus of how she is feeling these days as well; if she is feeling deeply remorseful for leaving yet feels completely justified in doing so, you shouldn’t have too many problems in getting her back; if she feels like all hope is lost because you’re acting like a total loser and she’d just be better off without you, then you will definitely have your work cut out for you. Thank your lovely female friend for telling you all that needed to be known for the moment and send her on her way. It is now time to take this information, plan your strategy, and head on down the road back towards your girl because, after all, she is your girl and you plan to reclaim what you feel is rightfully yours.
The Game Plan
Now that you have some pretty useful information, it’s time to take your efforts to the drawing board and script your perfect comeback. While you have the true reason in your hand as to why she’s gone by now, the following plan will conveniently apply to any situation that comes about. First, you need to make sure that you have the plan of the century in place and rehearsed because you cannot mess this up at all; showing your ass because you didn’t play your cards right is not an option.
In the beginning of this manual, we told you that you needed to enhance the reasons why she got with you in the first place; this first plan is to figure out – from the beginning – what it is that got her to switch digits with you in the first place. Was it your good looks and charm? Time for us to enhance those areas. Was it the fact that you are a championship bowler? Play on that fact, too; no matter why she picked you over a bazillion other guys, we’ll play off those cards. First part of this plan is to take everything you know she loves and is fond of and put it one hand and take the crap she hates about you and put it into another. The reason for this is because you’ll definitely need to make a concerted effort in ditching what crappy qualities you possess about yourself or this won’t work at all; once that step is completed (which was probably done in the first chapter), you’ll be able to focus on enhancing the things she loves about you.
For this process, we’ll take the fact she loves your intelligence and smile and build off that (insert your own good traits as appropriate). If she thinks you are super smart, you are going to get smarter really quickly. How? Simple. Women are attracted to confidence along with intelligence; if you are confident in yourself to the point that it seems apparent you can’t be shaken, she’ll love you more so long as you don’t begin to breech the cockiness. Lacking in self-confidence is what made her fall away from you because you didn’t give her the attention she deserves or you didn’t give her the respect she needed which is directly related to the fact that you lacked in confidence. To re-boost your confidence, you need to purge your mind and heart of any negative habits that have bound you. In doing this, you’ll be able to see that you did, in fact, lack in several areas.
We include this because no matter how hard you try to get someone back, they may stay for a few days, maybe a month, and then bail because you’ll fall right back into the same pattern of sadness or ill-temperament. Add this ingredient to your game plan in getting back your girlfriend and I guarantee that not only will she fall for you again, it will be for keeps. Playing your cards right must always include a confidence check because you cannot keep anyone pleased for very long, let alone yourself, if you cannot keep your mind off the negativity or sadness that is caused by simple fear that inadequacy will take your life over. No book is going to assist you if this vital self-esteem boost isn’t done prior to any other steps we give you. Once you feel that you are in a position to love yourself enough to give love to others, you’ll be well on your way to getting her back before you even make a single move. So get ready, my friend; it’s time to go in deep!