Mama June is dating a child molester. Mark McDaniel, the boyfriend, is not just any child molester. According to a Monday, October 27 report by TMZ, he is the man who forced one of Mama June’s daughters to have oral sex with him. In a telephone interview on October 27, an Oklahoma City woman shared her personal story that is much like the current “Here Comes Honey Boo Boo” molestation drama.
“My mother continued to date the man who raped me,” Kate, the name the Oklahoma City woman asked to be called, stated. “Not only did she date him, she married him.”
Kate explained how her mother started dating a man when she was 14. He began raping her shortly after the relationship with her mother started. He continued to rape her for four years, until Kate moved out to start college.
“I told her and she didn’t believe me. I couldn’t make her believe me,” Kate explained. “I told her things I could only know if I’d seen him naked and she still didn’t believe me.”
Kate’s mother’s boyfriend was arrested for raping the next door neighbor’s daughter. The little girl was only 12 at the time. Still, Kate’s mother called her daughter a “twisted liar.” Even when he was found guilty and sentenced, Kate’s story was not believed.
“I felt so betrayed,” Kate said. “My mother, the one person who was suppose to protect me and love me, didn’t protect me. She couldn’t love me very much either or she would have believed me.”
Kate’s mother was engaged to the rapist when he was arrested. Their wedding was postponed until after he was released from prison. That was four years later, when Kate was 23.
“I went away to college and tried to forget about all of it,” Kate said. “As bad as what he did to me, it wasn’t as bad as what she did to me. I’ll never get over what she did to me.”
When her mother married her daughter’s rapist, Kate was worried about her younger sister. She was 15 at the time. She called the police when her sister confided in her that he was also raping her. No charges were brought against him that time. Kate’s sister left home and moved in with Kate.
“I’ll never understand how my mom could do that to us. It hurts in ways I can’t explain. She is my mother. She is my sister’s mother. How could she do that to us?”
Kate is worried about Honey Boo Boo. She, like many, believe that child molesters can’t be reformed in prison. That fact that her sister was raped after he was released is all the proof she needs.
“That little girl needs to be protected from her mom’s boyfriend,” Kate said. “Honey Boo Boo needs to be removed from that home. No child, especially a little girl, should have to live with a convicted child molester.”
“I don’t want to think about what will happen to Honey Boo Boo if [Mark McDaniel] gets a hold of her. Will Mama June believe her, if she even tells her? What will happen to that poor girl?”
Kate no longer has a relationship with her mother. She cut all ties when she left for college. She had brief contact with her when her sister moved out, but that was only for legal reasons.
“I need a mother. She wasn’t there when I graduated from college. She wasn’t there for my wedding.” Then Kate cried. “I can’t let her have anything to do with my daughter. I need a mother and my little girl needs a grandmother. We don’t need someone who is married to someone who rapes children.”
Kate’s mother has tried to have a relationship with her daughter. That will never happen. Kate explained that could never happen, even if she wasn’t married to the man who raped her.
“I came to terms with what he did to me,” Kate explained. “I just haven’t come to terms with what my mom did to me. I don’t think I ever will.”
Kate stopped there. She cried out loud. After regaining her composure, she continued.
“It is even worse now that I have my daughter. I know how much a daughter should be loved. I never had that kind of love. I have to wonder if I can love my daughter enough. I know I can keep her safe or, at least believe her, if someone hurts her, but I don’t know if that will be enough.”
Kate is currently in therapy. She also attends weekly support group meetings in the Greater Oklahoma City Metro Area. She doesn’t think that things are getting better. Despite that, she was recently asked to facilitate a support group. She declined. Kate doesn’t believe that she is healthy enough to help others.
“There are a lot of us out there. Grown women and little girls who no longer have mothers because they chose a child rapist over their own child,” Kate said. “I hope Honey Boo Boo doesn’t become one of us. No one deserves that.”
“I hope [Honey Boo Boo’s mother] stops and thinks,” Kate cautioned. “I know what it is like. There is no recovery from that kind of betrayal. Not only could that little girl be raped, she could have to live with the fact that her mother let it happen. It will be Mama June’s fault and Honey Boo Boo will have to live with that for the rest of her life.”
Kate is doing her best to move on. She is getting the help that she needs. It is unknown what will become of Honey Boo Boo. Seeing that her mother, Mama June, is dating the man who molested another one of her daughters, there is no way to tell what the future holds for Honey Boo Boo.