Peter W. Rosenberger, Nashville radio host and 28-year caregiver for his double-amputee wife Gracie, releases Hope for the Caregiver, Tuesday, September 16. With authenticity and a “goofy sense of humor,” he “condenses a lifetime of experience…into a lifeline of help for fellow caregivers,” of which there are more than 65.7 million caregivers in the U.S.
When asked why his opinion matters, he writes, “everyone is entitled to an opinion.” However, his decades long care of Gracie “trumps opinion” and gives him a “certain degree of authority” on the subject.
No one likes to suffer, yet some face a lifetime of suffering such as Peter’s wife Gracie, who at age seventeen suffered a “car accident that devastated” her body and left her in chronic pain.
Three decades later, Gracie has undergone “seventy-eight operations that include multiple amputations and revisions by “sixty physicians in a dozen hospitals.” Medical costs are now “cresting nine million dollars,” he writes.
He’s brutally honest about the emotional challenges of caregiving, from feelings of guilt, to discouragement, fear, isolation and loss of identity that taught Peter he must learn to care for himself in order to care for Gracie.
To survive the challenges of caregiving he devised a “sustainable care structure” that he writes about in this book. He begins with the “Delta Doctrine,” a nugget of wisdom he credits a Delta flight attendant for. Then explains to the reader why “wait, water, and walk” gives him time to make “healthy and positive decisions in high-stress moments.”
That’s only one of many practical pieces of advice. The “qualifying” questions in chapter three, “A Different Perspective” are realistic and help to define the role of a caregiver when the “turbulence of caregiving hits.”
1. Did you create the condition your loved one endures?
2. Can you cure them?
3. Can you control what is happening to them?
Your answers will tell you whether you need to read the book or not.
His insightful rendition of the “Caregiver’s Prayer,” inspired by principles from the “Serenity Prayer” affirms what caregivers realistically “can and cannot do” while the words remind readers that God is in control.
Peter’s realistic approach teaches “reality can be a tough companion at times, but it’s an honest friend” because reality accepts “what is” and works to make it better. The practical tools he offers have been tested in the fires of caregiving experience, which make this an invaluable resource and guide.
Peter and Gracie also founded Standing with Hope, a non-profit outreach
that provides “artificial limbs to the people of West Africa.”
‘Hope for the Caregiver,’ by Peter Rosenberger, Foreword by Ken Tada, Worthy Inspired, September 16, 2014, 224 Pages, 978-1617953828, $12.99
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‘Hope for the Caregiver: Encouraging Words to Strengthen Your Spirit,’ by Peter Rosenberger, Foreword by Ken Tada,’
“If you love somebody, you will be a caregiver. If you live long enough, you’ll need one.”
Now the 65.7 million caregivers in America, making up 29 percent of the U.S. adult population, can turn to one of their own for encouragement and renewal. With three decades of experience and immense credibility, Peter Rosenberger offers proven practical help with biblical truths.
Wear Comfortable Shoes: Surviving and Thriving as a Caregiver, by Peter Rosenberger
With a focus on “those who push the wheelchair,” Peter W. Rosenberger draws upon nearly thirty years of caregiving experience through a medical catastrophe involving 78 operations, multiple amputations, more than 60 physicians, 12 hospitals, 7 insurance companies, and $9 million in health costs – to share practical tips, Biblical principles, and a smattering of his outrageous humor, in order to equip others to survive and thrive as caregivers.
Gracie, by Gracie Rosenberger & Peter W. Rosenberger
“I am so glad the time has come for Gracie and Peter to share this amazing story with the world. You will carry it with you always.” -Jeff Foxworthy
“Thank you, Peter and Gracie, for lifting our own burdens as you bear your hearts in this remarkable book.” -Joni Eareckson-Tada.
“I have met many brave, inspirational people through the years but Gracie Rosenberger has to be the most extraordinarily courageous individual I have ever known.” – Kathy Lee Gifford “
An extraordinary, magical memoir of bravery, perseverance, faith, and love.” -Senator Bill Frist, MD former Majority Leader, United States Senate
Eventually, we must face losing control of our bodies, causing many to live in fear and despair. Sometimes, this loss of control happens in a violent and tragic way, birthing a discovery of greater truths to individuals through suffering …who in turn become beacons of hope to millions.
Joni and Ken: An Untold Love Story, by Ken Tada, Joni Eareckson Tada & Larry Libby
This is the true love story of Joni and her husband of 30 years, Ken Tada. A love story showing what it truly means for a man and a woman to live in love … in sickness and in health.
Even the honeymoon wasn’t easy. Did Ken realize what he was getting into when he proposed to Joni, a quadriplegic woman? As their marriage years moved on, Ken became increasingly overwhelmed by the never-ceasing demands of caring for Joni, who begins to experience chronic, extreme, nightmarish pain. Ken sinks into depression, and the couple finds themselves on parallel tracks in life, married and living under the same roof but drifting apart emotionally.
But as they fight for their marriage and find their way through the mazes of depression and pain, they wrap their two lives around their rock—Jesus.
During Ken’s denial of Joni’s diagnosis, and Joni’s thoughts of how wonderful a quick exit to heaven would be, they experience a personal visitation with the savior you will never forget.
124 Prayers for Caregivers, by Joan Guntzelman
In 124 Prayers for Caregivers, an author with a solid background in counseling, offers an emphatic and encouraging presentation of prayerful responses to serving God in the role of caregiver. Includes prayers, brief quotations from the Bible or other sources, several lines of reflection, and a closing petition. Those seeking growth as caregivers in need of prayers that express their desire to “give everything over to God” will find strength and consolation in this book.
Appreciating Mom Through the Lens of Alzheimer’s: A Care Giver’s Story, by Don Mesibov
Appreciating Mom through the Lens of Alzheimer’s is an inspirational memoir that chronicles the challenges and cherished moments one man and his family share as they care for his mother in her final months. Uplifting, despite its subject matter, this is a delightful read even for those fortunate enough not to have experienced Alzheimer’s in anyone close; yet it is extremely informative for those who are caregivers for a member of the family or a close friend.. Appreciating Mom through the Lens of Alzheimer’s tells how Don Mesibov and his family turned what could have been a dark and dismal time in their lives into a wonderful opportunity to learn, grow, and celebrate life.
An upbeat story of tenderness and sadness told with much humor and heartfelt emotion, it chronicles the challenges and joys of Don, Susan and their three children as caregivers for his mother, Rhoda, after she was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s. It memorializes how Rhoda’s warm, friendly personality and love of life were not defeated by the disease, even when it rendered her incapable of processing anything but the simplest of thoughts. Comprised of journal entries, emails, and other writings from the time Don and his family cared for his mom.
Appreciating Mom through the Lens of Alzheimer’s is not just a book based on a true story—nor is it a memoir about the past, written after the fact. It is the story, as it unfolded at that time, documenting actual conversations, anecdotes, and events only shortly after they originally occurred.
The Caregiving Wife’s Handbook: Caring for Your Seriously Ill Husband, Caring for Yourself, by Diana Denholm
A month after proposing marriage, Diana Denholm’s husband was diagnosed with colon cancer and later congestive heart failure. Following a heart transplant several of her husband’s body systems began failing forcing Diana to become his primary caregiver for more than a decade. The Caregiving Wife’s Handbook is a step-by-step communication guide to help women maintain emotional, physical and financial health in their unique role as caregivers to their dying husbands.
The Caregiving Wife’s Handbook will give you the tools and support needed to get through your husbands’ illness and death with compassion, emotionally whole and without regret.
Elder Care Assistance: A Practical Guide Covering Health, Financial and Legal Considerations, by Sandy Myerson
Are you prepared for a family crisis? Do you have a record of all your assets? Do you have the legal documents ready so that someone can make decisions? Is your estate planning complete? 13 Spreadsheets are included to help you get organized.
“Sandy has written a practical guide for all of us who are aging and/or have aging parents. Having experienced the pitfalls and lack of information first hand, she has given us an invaluable resource to deal with many of the common problems that inevitably arise at this stage of life. We are grateful to her for putting it all together for the rest of us.” James G. Pelton M.D.
Second Forgetting: Remembering the Power of the Gospel during Alzheimer’s Disease, by Dr. Benjamin T. Mast
Charles is 78 years old and there is much he cannot remember. He cannot remember the names of his children, why he lives in a nursing home, or even whether he ate breakfast today. His forgetting causes confusion, and in his fear and uncertainty he sometimes lashes out at those who try to care for him. But when someone reads a favorite Psalm he quickly joins in, reciting each cherished word. When he hears an old hymn of faith, his hand slowly raises and he breathes out each word quietly, his face reflecting a peace that passes all understanding.
Alzheimer’s disease has been described as the “defining disease” of the baby boomer generation. Millions of Americans will spend much of their retirement years either caring for a loved one with Alzheimer’s disease or experiencing its effects on their lives firsthand. When a person is diagnosed with Alzheimer’s, they face great uncertainty, knowing that they can expect to live their remaining years with increasing confusion and progressively greater reliance upon other people to care for them. As the disease advances it seems to overwhelm a person, narrowing their focus and leading them to forget critical truths about the Lord, their life with him, and his promises.
Through the personal stories of those affected and the loved ones who care for them, Dr. Benjamin Mast highlights the power of the gospel for those suffering from Alzheimer’s disease. Filled with helpful, up-to-date information, Dr. Mast answers common questions about the disease and its effect on personal identity and faith as he explores the biblical importance of remembering and God’s commitment to not forget his people. In addition, he gives practical suggestions for how the church can come alongside families and those struggling, offering help and hope to victims of this debilitating disease.
Walking with God through Pain and Suffering, by Timothy Keller
Walking with God through Pain and Suffering is the definitive Christian book on why bad things happen and how we should respond to them. The question of why there is pain and suffering in the world has confounded every generation; yet there has not been a major book from a Christian perspective exploring why they exist for many years.
The two classics in this area are When Bad Things Happen to Good People by Rabbi Harold S. Kushner, which was published more than thirty years ago, and C. S. Lewis’s The Problem of Pain, published more than seventy years ago. The great secular book on the subject, Elisabeth Ku¨bler-Ross’s On Death and Dying, was first published in 1969. It’s time for a new understanding and perspective, and who better to tackle this complex subject than Timothy Keller?
As the pastor of Redeemer Presbyterian Church in Manhattan, Timothy Keller is known for the unique insights he shares, and his series of books has guided countless readers in their spiritual journeys. Walking with God through