Not long ago a young lady asked the question: How to stop the pain of a brokenhearted girl?
As cliché as it may sound: “Only time can heal a broken heart.”
Ideally one would have the support of friends and family to help them through the initial grieving process. Even if they are doing nothing more than distracting you from your pain momentarily it helps to know there are other people who care about you. Your world did not come to an end.
Moving On Means Letting Go
The biggest challenge most people have early on is accepting the fact that the relationship/marriage is over. Hoping for a reconciliation keeps one from moving on. You can’t get to second base if you insist upon keeping one foot on first base. Commit to moving on.
Needing “closure” also makes it hard to move on. Anyone who puts their life on hold until they’ve gotten some explanation from their (ex) is giving him or her way too much power over their future!
There is nothing your ex could say or do that would make you feel better about having your heart broken!
Let go of the idea of trying to learn/discover something you need to change about yourself. The reason he or she broke up with you could very well be the same reason why the next person falls madly in love with you! Changing for (exes) after each breakup is equivalent to changing with every shift of the wind. Be yourself!
Remove Your Rose Tinted Glasses
Romanticizing the past also keeps people from moving on. This is especially true if they’re not dating or are having a challenge connecting with someone new at the moment. They’ll only remember the good times regarding their past relationship and conveniently forget about all the arguments and disappointments. Eventually they convince themselves that their ex was “the one”!
The truth of the matter is: In order for him/her to be “the one” they would have to see you as being “the one”. At the very least a “soul-mate” is someone who actually wants to be with you and vice versa!
Keep Things In Perspective
When it comes to love and relationships most of us fail our way to success! If this were not the case we would all be married to our high school sweethearts! Welcome to the club. You didn’t die! You’re not alone! An ex is an ex for a reason and it’s usually a good reason.
Your future lies ahead of you and not behind you.