Fall is officially here. The leaves are changing colors as the West prepares for Winter. Fall and Spring are the most noticeable of the four seasons. In the Fall students return to school while parents return to their work schedules. The sun sets earlier and the days get colder and colder until snow fall.
Much like the seasons, humans must constantly change and transition in order to create a balance and a abundance of life. Change is necessary, however it can be extremely difficult. Change can happen within a blink of an eye but the transition of change may be prolonged for months or even years.
In this article, you will learn to transition using five easy steps.
If one were to walk into any addiction counseling office, the repeated saying would be, “Admitting you have a problem is the first step.” This can be used with any type of behavior. The first step of transitioning is realizing you want to change. To some, this may be a “duh” moment but to others it is ground breaking. Do you want to lose weight because everyone thinks you could shed a couple pounds or do you want to lose weight because YOU want to prevent diseases and live a healthier lifestyle. The reason for change must start with you.
The next step is to find a set of goals and write them down. It is so easy to say, “I’ll stop smoking someday,” but the real challenge comes when you can clearly see your goals. When writing your goals always write in the positive. Write down, “I will stop smoking,” instead of “No more smoking.” Stating a goal in the positive essentially tricks your brain into wanting it more. Contrary to popular belief, our brains love being happy. Make sure your goals are challenging yet achievable. If you smoke two or more packs of cigarettes a day, your family and friends habitually and casually smoke and you want to quit cold turkey, then best of luck. Quitting in that fashion is possible, however, you have the odds against you. It is much more achievable to first cut down on your smoking, then change the habits and/or the company you previously surrounded yourself with during your life as a smoker. When you reach for a goal that is not realistic, you are setting yourself up for failure and if you do fail you are more likely to second guess your abilities and continue to fail.
Once you have your goals written down, write out the steps you must take in order to reach said goals. It is important to put a date of which these goals much be completed. A goal without a deadline is just a dream. For example if you want to become a psychologist, write it down. Then write down how many years and how much money you will need for school. Write out in what ways will you cut down your spending so you can save money, so that you do not have to take out loans, if it can be avoided. Find the university that will fit your needs for your undergraduate and will help you move on to graduate school. Make sure the school works in your field of psychology. Realize that once you finish your prerequisites, the hard work will come. You will have less of a social life, you will have increased stress, and unless you come from a wealthy family that is willing to pay tuition then you have to look at various ways of which you will pay. Be strict with your goals yet, open to change. Although you may want to go to your choice university, you may not have the money which means you have to start at a county college and save your money. That is okay. Do not compare your chapter one to someone else’s chapter ten.
The fourth step is one of the most difficult steps to complete. You must let go of what is holding you back. Think of your life as a garden. A garden will grow and flourish if it is properly cared for. Gardeners know, in order to have their plants grow they must cut out the weeds. Cut the weeds out of your life. Your life weeds may come in different forms. They may be friends, family members, co-workers, loved ones, and even your thoughts and behaviors. You cannot expect to live a positive life, with a negative vibration. Sometimes you have to lookout for your best interest and love people from a distance.
The final step is to commit and do it. Now is the time where you put your money where your mouth is. Now is the time where you complete your goals. You have a plan already set out.
As the famous Nike slogan says, “Just do it.”