I run my own business. I am proud to be my own boss and to set my own rules. I am the girl next door. You know me well. I grew up with you. I am proud to participate in my local community. I am not a victim. I control my own choices and my own destiny. And I am a Sugar Baby.
When you say the words “Sugar Baby,” there’s often a look of disgust that comes across someone’s face. Immediately they think “escort” or “gold-digger.” It’s not something you tell your parents or friends, and you immediately feel as though you’re alone in this journey. You haven’t got a map and you must find your way by trial and error.
Many of us keep our Sugar Daddy dating a “secret” and we never talk with anyone else about it…so we’re left to wonder if we’re the only one dealing with the issues we’re going through.
I never set out to become a Lifestyle Coach for Sugar Babies. Like a lot of women, I’ve always been attracted to worldly men, and I wanted to surround myself with them to get inside their heads and experience a different lifestyle than what I was accustomed to. Perhaps it was the maturity and the wisdom they provided and the guidance I yearned for. I became obsessed with wanting to know more about this world. I came across books about being a Sugar Baby, but they only left me wondering what to do next. How could I actually make their stories my own? I had no one to ask or turn to for help. I was alone. It taught me something that I never would have realized on my own: that with my passion for human behavior and for discovering the nuances that drive a man to give a woman what she wants, I could create the system that has worked for me and which I now share with Sugar Babies.
I want to challenge prejudices, stereotypes, and perceptions of women that choose to be in a relationship with wealthy, powerful, and influential men. Many people may view a woman targeting wealthy men to be distasteful and repulsive. They may even label these women in derogative and negative terms such as labeling them gold-diggers, hookers, prostitutes, and in the extreme end, even whores. You call this woman a Sugar Baby. With these negative images, the public may inadvertently discriminate against Sugar Babies.
I am a woman who has chosen to enhance my life by dating successful men to enhance my life.
Once people adapt to this more realistic portrayal, then the public will have a more sympathetic understanding of Sugar Babies. Sugar Babies are frequently depicted on both extreme end of the spectrum of overly negative or overly positive – of either being helpless victims that have been sexually, mentally, and physically abused, or that they are drug addicts. Or on the other extreme end, they are characterized as “happy hookers” that are living highly glamorous and luxurious lives with no care in the world. These two depictions are not the typical experiences of Sugar Babies.
Instead Sugar Babies are ordinary, average women living surprisingly normal lives. They just so happen to choose of their own free will an extraordinary relationship that is frowned upon by society. This is like any other relationship that seeks to enhance our life by choosing a partner that would be an ideal fit to live a higher standard of living.
Seeking to advance one’s self in name, status, and fortune should not be frowned upon by our society today? People in the past have been doing it for centuries. Rich families of the nobility would only seek other rich, noble families to make an alliance with – so that their wealth and power stayed protected amongst themselves. When someone that is not super rich, seek the attentions of a rich, powerful, and influential partner, does it reflect in a negative light? That is pure hypocrisy. Even in today’s society, rich people are still aligning themselves with other rich people.
I hope to encourage people and the public to re-evaluate their old prejudices, stereotypes, and perceptions that they have formed against Sugar Babies. They are your mothers, daughters, sisters, friends, and neighbors seeking to live a lifestyle that they desire to enhance themselves.