Kids first should be the mantra of every parent. First in mind when making all our decisions, even in regards to spiritual/physical health, spending/saving money, marriage/divorce, moving/staying … etc.
There is only a few short years we have, as a parent to guide our children in the ways of life. One of these days they will be on their own, and hopefully they will take advice then as well. But for the present time – while they are young – we have a chance that will never be there again.
Think of it this way. Our children will spend 18 or maybe 20 years living in our house – this is only one-fourth of their life span. The other three-fourths of their life will contain a ton of decisions to be made by them on a moments’ notice they need to be prepared for in advance. Not that they need specific answers, but we should take the time now to lay the foundation upon which all of their future answers will be laid. That means spending quality time with them now, not necessarily teaching constantly, but letting them observe us making decisions and how we handle the responsibility. Yes, they are observing us, no matter how many times they say, “What?” or “Huh?”
Though this just seems to make sense, there are a few bible passages that would lend support.
Ecclesiastes 3:1-8 – specifically verse one, says “For everything there is a season, and a time for every matter under heaven”
This verse says a lot of things, and one of them is; there is an appointed time for everything to happen. Timing is a big part of doing God’s work. Thinking of the right time to perform a work of faith is just as important as the content of work we are doing. We should not only think about how we can teach our children, but also the time in which we explain something to them.
Of course we have all heard this bible verse: Proverbs 22:6 – Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it. Not to say they will always be faithful, for once they leave the home, they make their own decisions because they have their own mind. But think about the timing of this verse. How do we teach when they are gone? The most reasonable time to teach is now, when they are young.
Since we have such a short period of time with our children, we should make them our priority now, not later.
What does God think about children? Let’s take a look at the first part of Matthew 18.
Matthew 18:4 – “Whoever humbles himself like this child is the greatest in the kingdom of heaven.”
Matthew 18:1-6 – the theme centers on children. Verses 7-9 have to do with avoiding sin. And could verses 10-14 be dealing with children as well? Jesus seems to continue the thought in verse 10 when he references the “little ones” from verse nine.
In other words, put children first, especially before temptations. Hmm … maybe there are too many temptations that take us away from our children.
Just a thought.
What do you think?