Many people, especially young people, confuse their feelings towards someone with love when in actuality it is simply lust. Though young people in their teens can in fact fall in love; more than likely when you are that young it is just lust. But what exactly is the difference between lust and love?
Just imagine being at the mall or a bar, when someone catches your eye. The first thing you notice about them is their appearance. Next you will notice little things such as their laugh or their sense of humor. You two may begin seeing each other, going on dates, and before you know it you are in an exclusive relationship. Although you would like to say it was love at first site, technically it was just lust.
Lust is a purely physical fleeting feeling. When you first see someone you notice their physical appearance along with a couple personality traits. While it is true that lust can turn in to love, it is never love at first. When meeting someone for the first time, you don’t know their different quirks, their full sense of humor or their back story. Lust is a feeling of want that has the ability to develop in to love.
Love is an indescribable feeling. Many times developing from lust, love is knowing someone’s personality in and out. It’s when you look at them and you don’t just see someone who you want to have sex with. You see someone who you can share your fears and secrets to. They are someone who shares with you their imperfections and dreams.
When you are in love you will be going throughout your day and randomly think of that person. It is the reason you go out of your way to ensure their happiness. Being in love means putting someone’s needs before your own.
Lust is wanting to have someone based nearly 100 percent on their appearance. Love is needing someone in your life because of the person you are when you’re with them. You may not need them to be around all the time, but just having that person in your life completes who you are. Lust does not last too long but does vary depending on the person. Once the physical aspect is dwindling, it is then that love emerges or everything ends.
It is said that women fall in love faster than men do. Typically the first time a man falls in love he will fall fast. After that initial fall, he will be more selective on who he falls in love with as well as how fast it takes him. Him falling in love could take anywhere from a few weeks to over a year. Women on the other hand tend to fall almost immediately. Mind you, they don’t fall in love until they get to know the person.
It is impossible for you to fall in love with someone instantaneously when you first meet. Love is when you know someone really well. When you enjoy making them laugh and will do anything just to hear their laugh. When you try and think of little surprises to do for them to see their smile. Love is when you miss each other, even if you have only been a part for a few hours. Love is a strong and powerful feeling that not everybody is lucky enough to find.