….being alone…. I’m in a deceptive love affair with it… I have by choice remained “alone” for many years “waiting”…. Though I write that word with caution as it seems to imply a sense of stagnation, so should I say “Living” to find the “right one”… what does that mean? We’ve talked about it before and we know that “right one” means “right for us” mean’s “I love you enough to do the work necessary to enjoy my life with you” means “I know that you’re not “perfect” as in never make mistakes but, I know that you are perfect for me”. Love… a many splendid thing.. I am just now in my late twenties (so close to thirty that one could almost get there with but a push and a yr+) beginning to understand it.
Love is not walking away…. But then sometimes it is… sometimes love is knowing that what will serve your partner best at the moment is not “being” with them, perhaps there are still lessons for them to receive that they cannot with you? Love to me is action relating through emotion and an underlying spiritual depth, a space in your soul that calls to you and says, even though I can imagine my life without this person, I don’t want to. For me, it was always “easy” to leave partner, to put walls up, to end stagnating situations so love for me, has truly become understanding that working through the process is growth, and that my desire to stick through and work it out with one person is beyond my fear of love.. i.e. for so long I have equated love to hurt, to cheating, to heartbreak etc. I’m the first to say that we can’t experience what we can’t believe, and that’s where a great partner comes in… in sticking through their/our fears we ultimately teach / remind each other that it’s ok to believe in love. That the good stuff exists in life.
So what does this have to do with the Divine Feminine and Masculine? Female’s (female essences i.e. a person could be in a male body and feel more feminine, vise versa with feminine body feeling male) Female’s have the innate desire (most of the time there of course are always exceptions to the rules) to partner. It is the females yearning heart that calls in her love, deeper and deeper and deeper, then the Masculine finds that he truly experiences the deepest depths and richness of life through sticking with one partner (the right partner of course) that they will go deeper and develop into fuller versions of themselves even, through this love. By both A. opening up their heart and experiencing and B. staying steady for the one they love.
Masculine essence, and anyone who knows men will know that MOST of the time, they would be happy just to chill on a rock by themselves… men don’t have as strong a desire to pair but, ultimately it is what is best for them. Surrreee it’s more peaceful alone in your little world, but the richness comes through relation. The warm dinners, and sweet sentiments, the care taking when they are sick, the being seen and being witnessed, the life…the color that comes in and fills life is the feminine essence, and the paper/picture the drawn lines and boundaries is the masculine, alone… they are good, but together they are AMAZING. What the structure lacks in color and vibrancy the feminine brings, and what the color lacks in structure and depth, the masculine holds space for. It’s pretty incredible, particularly when you find the “one” that you truly want to spend the rest of your life with, regardless if that means that everyday won’t be sunny. Or that you have to wait 3 years etc.
When you find true love, fight for it… is my advice, know when to say when, and mostly… know that it’s about forgiveness… forgiving yourself and your partner, and the one’s who truly make it are the ones that let go of the dark and fear based moments. Because I have had so many fears of my own, and my potential partner has been so lovingly forgiving to me through them, I find that I put my foot down to crappy behavior, but I’m also quick to ultimately forgive at the sign of repentance because I know that he is not made or defined by his fears, that those are the illusions, he is made and defined by his love which is like…. No other, in the world.
That’s worth fighting for.