I was just reading an email I received from a very well respected relationship guru. I was kind of shocked by the email as he was giving advice on how to manipulate a man’s mind into falling in love with you. Having a man betray himself. I thought, REALLY? Why on earth would I want to trick a man into loving me. That would be a relationship built on lies and mistrust and the man would eventually realize he was manipulated. Don’t women truly want a man to love her for her, no tricks? I was a bit put off and just had to sit and read the email again. I am still shocked this MAN would write an email telling women to do this. What a horrible game to play. Then I watched the video that was attached to the email. It starts out saying this is a short video. It’s NOT a short video, I watched it and listened to the hype on it for over 1 hour and I finally turned it off, the last 15 mins I watched were this woman trying to sell her system on how to “make a man fall in love with you to the point he will follow you around and be so madly in love with you that he will want to spend every waking second by your side” REALLY? In society they call that stalking!
I do agree with some of what she was saying on the video, but I do not believe you must pay money to learn how to do it or play games to get a man to fall in love with you.
Yes, you DO have to play some games or they could be construed as games in the relationship department but you do NOT have to stoop so low as to try and manipulate a man’s mind into loving you!
Let me just tell you a few things I know about men, dating and a relationship.
1) Men are terrified of rejection. Especially when they find you desirable. Most men would rather not approach you at all or speak to you because they are so afraid.
2) Most men can’t read your signals. Let’ say you are sitting in a restaurant and your eyes catch the eyes of a man you think you may be interested in, yet he looks away and doesn’t approach you even though you think you are “sending” him all the right signals. The plain truth is that men don’t think like we do. They don’t see things the same way and they certainly don’t get our signals. They perceive things very differently.
3) Every man wants a great woman, even the guy you might consider a “player”. That man will change his ways but it again is FEAR holding him back. A guy would rather sit there drinking with his buddies or playing burping games rather then approach you for fear of rejection or fear of that awkward moment of silence while trying to talk to you. So if he does approach you he will ramble on and on about himself and never ask about you. We take this as him being a self centered egotistical man, however, he is actually choking because he finds you desirable and his fear has gotten the better of him. Give this poor guy a chance, try to calm him down and allow him to figure it out.
4) The truth is MEN want WOMEN to figure them out. They want to be understood just like we do! And once they find that woman who takes the time to figure them out, to understand them or their sense of humor, then guess what? They will be the man you are looking for.
There is no magic system, there is no formula for “controlling a mans mind”. It’s comes down to simply chemistry and taking the time to listen and understanding.
Till next time,