Today’s dating world looks so different. Instead of just walking up to someone you’d like to get to know and asking them out, there’s a vast array of ways to show interest via technology. There’s online dating (Match.com, eHarmony, OKcupid, Tinder, etc.). There’s social media (Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, Snapchat, etc.) And even when a friend tries to hook you up with someone, the first thing you do is Google them and Facebook stalk them.
But just because you meet someone or start talking to someone online doesn’t mean you completely abandon your old school values and the actual dating process. Don’t throw all common sense out the window. It’s okay to utilize technology. There’s no shame in that. The issue comes when you start dating someone online and forget to date the same way you would if you had met in person. Here are a few tips for modern day dating with old school values.
Take things slow. Before the days of technology, the courting process was much slower. You could talk on the phone, but for the most part, your communication consisted of actually seeing each other face-to-face. But now, we’ve got Facebook chat, Instagram, Twitter, Gchat, email, texting, and many other ways to communicate. You can essentially communicate with someone all day long. But that kind of constant communication can make you think you know someone better than you actually do. After just a few weeks of texting and chatting back and forth, that person becomes a very big part of your life. And that’s great. But you should still remember to take things slow.
Use your gut. If something sounds too good to be true, it usually is. Don’t just blindly walk into a mistake. People are out here getting “Catfished” because they’re just believing any and everything that they read on the internet. Don’t believe everything you see on the internet and don’t believe everything someone tells you when you’re just getting to know them for yourself. Take your time getting to know them and let them prove to you that they are trustworthy. If you have a weird feeling about something, don’t ignore that feeling. And do not ignore any red flags!
Go on actual dates. It is easy to think you are in a legitimate relationship after texting and calling and chatting for months. But don’t let that be your relationship in its entirety. At some point, you have to go on actual dates. You have to see each other face-to-face. You have to know if you actually like that person outside of the comfort and convenience of being behind a computer or a phone. Meeting online and talking on social media is fine, but you still deserve to be taken out on an actual date. You still want to look that person in the eye so you can tell if what you’re feeling is real. It’s so easy for people to create a persona when they’re just texting and emailing you. They can really just type whatever they think you want to hear.
What do you think? Should you still use old school values when dating via technology?
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