A new study emerged stating that half of all women that are in a relationship already have a fall-back partner just in case their current relationship turns sour. Daily Mail reported that married women are more likely to have a Plan B just in case their marriage turns to divorce. However, even unmarried women in relationships share that they have someone on the side just in case anything happens, simply because they want to be prepared.
A survey of one thousand women found that their Plan B is someone who is already in their lives that they know is currently waiting for them. The back-up partner is also likely to be a person that she has known for several years. One in ten women have admitted that their fall-back partner has already confessed their true feelings for them, while another one in five felt fairly confident that the fall-back would “drop everything” just to be with her.
Four in ten women admitted to getting to know their fall-back while they were with their current partner while another percentage claims their back-up was around long before their current relationship. An incredible twelve percent of women claimed to have stronger feelings for their back up than they have towards their current partner.
Here is the debate, while any individual should be ready for anything, considering life is unpredictable, it is not okay to have a back-up plan. The only “exception” to the rule is if you inevitably fall for someone else while you are in your current relationship. If in fact this happens, you must get the courage up to end your current relationship. It is not fair to you or your partner to maintain a relationship that is dead of all feelings. You may still care about them, but you obviously don’t love them anymore if you fell for someone else.
Furthermore, it IS similar to cheating if you are secretly wishing you could be with someone else, yet you continue life with your current partner. If you are unhappy with your current situation then leave. Many women will use the excuse of having kids or not being financially stable by herself. In this case you should take precautions before acting upon anything. Go get a job lined up, a place lined up, and research different laws if you have children involved.
Sometimes you just can’t wait to get everything in order before making the decision to leave. But don’t just stay so that way you can be ‘stable’. This will only lead to things becoming tenser between the two of you and eventually resulting in you considering the act of cheating.
No relationship is ever certain because there is always a chance that someone’s feelings could change or they could fall for someone else. It is good to have a back-up plan, meaning if they do leave you then:
1. Where will you go?
2. How will you support yourself?
3. If there are kids, how will you dispute with them about that?
4. What would happen with mutual assets such as cars, houses, and real estate?
These are questions that are acceptable when thinking of the “Well what would I do if he/she ever leaves me?” But don’t ever have a fall-back partner. Obviously you don’t have strong feelings for your current partner anymore so you might as well end it now. It has always been said that if you are in a relationship but fall for someone else, choose the second person because if you truly loved the first you would’ve never fallen for the second.