In this world there are many uncertain times. Our adopted children have probably experienced more life changes than us adults. So changes affect them more severely. It triggers anxiety they have right under the surface of their hearts. All we can do is prepare them.
First, let them know in advance in there are going to be changes in advance. What we see is a normal inconvenience, they could see as a large crisis. Preparing them in advance may make them anxious, but the challenge on the day of change will be smaller.
Second, try and see it from their perspective. Early in their lives everything was changing and they had to adapt all the time without a caring adult helping them to navigate many times. This caused a chemical change in them that we as well-adjusted people have not experienced. I have always tried to give our youngest son a lot of grace when changes occur. Since we got him at fifteen months of age, we has never adapted to change. He is sixteen years of age and still does not. Grace is all I have to offer.
Lastly, after the change or throughout the change, assure that they are loved in small ways. Candy and desserts have always worked at our house. It doesn’t destroy appetites for children just trying to cope with change. Its comfort food! I have also learned how to “roll with the punches” and use humor as a consistent sidekick. Anxiety is lessened as you apply some coping skills of your own.
Changes occur and knowing how to navigate this with your adopted children strengthens your relationship and lets them know that you are all in this boat together!