Young women seek college tuition while older men want to feel young again
Plenty of us have seen the trend of certain rich older men who choose to date younger women – and most of us have our own varying ideas about the process. Sites show the fabulousness of it all – but what’s it really like in real life?
That’s what reporter Lisa Ling recently set out to discover during her “This is Life with Lisa Ling” show. She learned that it’s not necessarily the salacious thing folks assume it always can be. Taylor, one woman Lisa profiled, is an African-American woman who wanted more than the fast food burger joints that men her age wanted to inhabit. In her 20s, she met a man named Rich and began to embrace the “sugar lifestyle.” She’s now 32 while Rich is 69 years old. Theirs, they insist, isn’t a sexual relationship, but more so one of companionship, so much so that the duo nearly broke into tears talking about their closeness, causing Lisa to want to cry as well.
Other relationships and theories posited in the documentary proved to be more nefarious. Although Ling was given limited access to a “getting to know you” party between younger women and older men, she reported that she clearly heard men asking some women, “How much for the night?”
The average younger woman that attends those kinds of specially designed parties to mix and mingle with older, on-average 40-year-old men is a college-educated 27-year-old woman. Some of those men, unfortunately, are married and seeking mistresses.
Certain sites even have selections that the younger women can choose from for their desired monthly allowance, and yet they still insist that it’s not a prostitution website. Critics say that these sites are operating in a gray area because they are not explicitly advertising sex, but relationships.
People point to the case of Alix Catherine Tichelman and her involvement in the death of Forrest Timothy Hayes and the manner in which they met, all the while others state that the same ending could’ve occurred in any other circumstances whereby adultery was a factor. It helps to uncover the true stories of those who’ve actually used those types of dating services to get the real scoop on the experience.
It was surprising to learn that a small cottage industry of experts who teach the women how to negotiate their allowances and spot fake sugar daddies has arisen. All in all, a few of the women claim that they just wanted an old-fashioned kind of arrangement where the man takes care of all the bills and they survive as a cute, younger kept woman. What was more shocking was to see a few “sugar mamas” in the party crowd during Ling’s report.
If it’s a real relationship on the up-and-up, with no adultery or illicitness involved, I guess I can’t judge it. If it’s more nefarious, I can. And that line about seeking a mentor that most of the young women espoused seemed all too common.