The art of begging isn’t a foreign concept. And neither is the idea of making a relationship work.
Healthcliff Huxtable gave Theo begging tips on an episode of the ’80s “The Cosby Show” while Claire stared oddly at the two crowing about Justine. Martin Payne’s character did it on many occasions with Gina on the ’90s “Martin” show.
The Temptations (and TLC’s remix) sang “Ain’t Too Proud to Beg.” Marvin Gaye may have been “Ego Trippin’,” but he also made songs like “Baby, I Need Your Loving.” Usher may have said “U Don’t Have to Call,” but he also said “U Got It Bad.” Tyrese asked his lady to “Stay.” Trey Songz compared love to a “Heart Attack.” Al Green was “So Tired of Being Alone” so he suggested “Let’s Stay Together.” Aerosmith didn’t even want to close their eyes cause they “Don’t Want to Miss a Thing.” Jerrod Niemann got so frustrated with the ups and downs, and he demanded to know “What Do You Want?”
And it’s not just singers who’ve crooned out lyrics hoping to resolve relationship issues. Nelly rapped “Just a Dream.” Drake rhymed “I’m still in love cause when it’s that real it just doesn’t fade” on “Look What You’ve Done” in a long list of salutes to exes. Mos Def was stunned and near tears with the possibility of divorce on “U R the One.” And although Jay Z is the epitome of cool, he temporarily let his guard down long enough to make “Song Cry.” Shawn Carter went from rapping about “Lost One” to literally confirming his lyrics “I might wife you and buy you nice whips” from “I Just Wanna Love U (Give It to Me).” He was the primary example for someone who “Put a Ring On It.”
It’s safe to say that when Kobe Bryant did his dirt, he didn’t just toss a ring at his wife Vanessa Laine Bryant and tell her, “Deal with it. Let the diamonds do the talking.” And no matter how ridiculous and funny “Love & Hip Hop Atlanta” is, even with a damaged motorcycle, Kirk still planned on throwing an “I’m Sorry” party for Rasheeda, and Scrappy still blew up Bambi’s phone and showed up to her house unannounced with a secret weapon that can tame the heart of many women: a puppy.
Whether in a monogamous relationship, married or on the brink of divorce, all of the examples above conjure up real emotions when a man has really invested time into a woman and refuses to just give up because of naysayers. While it may be (pathetically) cooler to think women salivate at the thought of being with players, accept being called “bitches” and “hos,” and believe they’re replaceable, the fact is at some point and time, every person should be lucky enough to meet their match — the one (or two or three) people that make them think, “Forget the pride. I need to fix this situation pronto.”
So when Vibe magazine requested the #AskThicke hashtag for a live chat with Robin Thicke, people’s perceptions about marriage, divorce and relationships got the spotlight as much as Robin Thicke’s own risk of divorce to actress and childhood sweetheart Paula Patton. While Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) confirms that 3.6 percent out of every 1,000 people who get married get divorced, the couples who make a marriage last get ignored.
I, ____, take you, ____, to be my lawfully wedded(husband/wife), to have and to hold, from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, until death do us part.
While it may be cooler to think that Robin Thicke made his 2014 album “Paula” to sell records or he’s stalking Paula Patton or he’s done too many things wrong to get her back, the fact still remains that neither of them has signed divorce papers. And as long as that hasn’t happened, he still has a chance and he knows it.
Maybe the people on Twitter who are making fun of him for trying to make his marriage work aren’t married, don’t have relatives who are married, have no clue about marriage vows and have never been exposed to married couples. Some may have gotten married more for the wedding than the actual marriage. Or, maybe they’re bitter because their own relationships didn’t work and nobody bothered to try to fix it. But with all the #AskThicke jokes that released on social media, the fact remains that Robin Thicke married Paula Patton, not Twitter. While Twitter may be laughing at their marital issues, it seems safe to say that Paula isn’t cracking a smile over heartbreak. And if he wins Paula back while the bitter snicker, guess who the joke is really on?
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