Most weddings are on Saturdays but other days of the week are not off limits. Here are a few tips for choosing the best day of the week for your wedding.
1. Venue Availability. This works in both directions. Many times, popular wedding and/or reception venues will be booked years in advance, especially in major cities. Saturdays throughout whatever the local “wedding season” may be and beyond are all booked up. In these instances, for a couple not planning three or four years in advance, an alternate day may play to their advantage. Often times, these venues have Fridays or Sundays more available as they are less traditional days for holding a wedding. Weekdays even, if that is of interest, may be available. Being able to book the venue of your dreams simply by holding the wedding on a day other than Saturday may be a small price to pay. On the flip side, some venues are only available on certain days. Some ball rooms, for example, at various hotels, are only available for weddings on particular days and are held for corporate events or conferences on other days of the week. Some churches only allow weddings on particular days of the week. Couples planning church weddings should take the time to check with the church regarding availability on particular days of the week as many couples are surprised to find out they cannot hold their wedding any day they choose. Some churches prefer not to hold weddings on Sundays because of regular church services. So do your homework.
2. Service Provider Availability. Again, this one works both ways. Some service providers are only available on Saturdays (or just the weekends). Some may have other gigs during the week. Musicians, for example, may have other commitments during the week, private bar tenders, waiters, or others that need to be brought in for an event may be less available. The officiant or minister may not be available on a Sunday due to other services. On the other hand, again, some sought after services providers may not be booked on an alternate day when their Saturdays are filled for what seems like years. Popular photographers, cake bakers, wedding planners, etc. may be able to take on a wedding that is not on a Saturday in cases where they would otherwise be too booked.
3. Family & Friends Availability. This is the most important consideration for most couples and yet, sometimes not fully considered. So often couples are disappointed to learn that a favorite family member or close friend cannot make it to the wedding. Best advice? Check on these things before securing a date. Of course, the point of invitations is for people to tell you whether or not they can attend, and it would be silly to reach out to everyone, but with the help of a maid of honor and a few family members, a family phone (or email) tree can be easily done to check on the grandparents, the best friends, of course the anticipated wedding party, and so forth to be sure the date is going to work. The second layer of this process is, of course, sending out Save the Dates with plenty of time to spare so that guests can hold the date on the calendar. If you have ample time in your planning, sending Save the Dates out around 6 months prior to your wedding (or a bit sooner if you know the date that far in advance) will help keep the wedding on the radar so friends and family know it’s coming.
4. Weekday Availability. This is a bit nontraditional, but weekday weddings do happen. There may be couples for whom a weekday works better than a weekend. Perhaps the bride works weekends in a job that cannot be missed. Weekday weddings are also a good option to consider when planning a destination wedding. If people will have to be traveling to the location for several days or more, sometimes a random weekday allows for better planning and more enjoyment for guests. In some cases, if guests will be leaving the destination location on the weekend, it can be nicer to hold the wedding a bit earlier in the week so people have a chance to enjoy themselves. Of course, if the affair is not a destination wedding for the couple but is for many of the guests, a weekday wedding will present an issue for a larger number of invitees. People already have a lot going on and getting away for a weekend can be tricky in and of itself. Asking guests to have to take off from work, younger guests to have to leave classes at college, or kids in the wedding party to have to leave school can be a bit much. If planning a weekday wedding, know that your pool of “will not attends” will likely be larger.
5. Bride & Groom Availability. Though couples sometimes forget, the wedding itself will be absolutely exhausting. Considering the bride and groom’s schedule before and after the wedding is good place to start. Taking your medical boards or the bar exam right before or after your wedding is a recipe for disaster. Holding the wedding on a Saturday and then being required to return to work the following morning is also terrible, so if a bride or groom cannot get days off during the week, then Saturday may be the least painful option in the long run. If a couple is able to get days off, being sure to coordinate some of those days for after the big day is a must. Often couples consider building in some vacation days prior to the event to allow extra planning and preparation time which is great, however, allowing for recovery time is also important for those not going directly on a honeymoon.
Some couples are more concerned with choosing a specific date for their wedding. For tips on date selection click here. With these thoughts in mind, you can get down to the business of choosing the day for your big day.