Anyone who is a parent knows about the potty struggle. Diapers cost a small fortune, so what can you do to make your child use the potty? There are many strategies listed in this article that can be tried, but the truth is: They will go on the potty when they are ready.
Introducing children to potty use is still a must, and no bed wetting for an extended period of time is usually an indication that they are ready to start potty training. However, forcing them to use the potty will often lead to the opposite result. They will be more determined to stay in diapers.
Boys are notoriously more difficult to potty train than girls, but no matter what their gender, as a parent this is a very frustrating phase to endure. Parents with a three-year-old in diapers are convinced their child is destined to be wearing diapers until they are a teenager.
Some children practically potty train themselves and are completely out of diapers by their second birthday. Other children, boys in particular, hold out until their third birthday before being completely potty trained. Many want nothing to do with the potty and inform their parents they like wearing diapers.
Parents can start by putting a little potty in the bathroom so the child can get used to it being there. Encourage them to sit on the potty with their clothes on so they can see it isn’t going to bite them or suck them in and swallow them whole. Explain how they can use the potty instead of their diaper.
When they are brave enough to use the potty for real, a good time to try is right before their bath time, while the water is running. Stay positive, even if they do nothing but sit there. This is a big step and it’s important to encourage them. They may want nothing more to do with the potty for a while but keep on asking them anyway. This is just another new skill for them to master.
It’s important to be patient. Just as you can’t make them walk until they are ready, they won’t use the potty until they are ready either. Treat this challenge as you would any other in their development. Keep encouraging them until they get it right. If you are a parent that insists on hurrying the process along, the following strategies can be tried but are often unsuccessful.
Give a small reward, such as a jelly bean, every time your child goes on the potty. Some children will tell you they have to pee immediately after they already wet in their diaper. Then, they sit down to go, and don’t have to. They will still ask for the reward. It’s important to give in with the reward only when they make pee in the potty. Other kids get wise to the reward and start to go pee every fifteen minutes, just a dribble, to get the reward. It won’t be long before they are not interested in the reward and go back to using their diaper.
You can let them feel wet. If they feel wet maybe they won’t like it and will start using the potty on their own. Padded training underwear are perfect for this idea. After two or three times of wet undies, pee dribbling down their legs and into their socks, they might see that your pee-on-the-potty-way is a much better alternative. Be prepared to clean up a few puddles before deciding that their I-want-to-wear-my-diaper-way is a much better alternative.
Set a timer. When the timer goes off, march them to the bathroom and plop them down on the potty. This will result in the parents being trained instead of the child. The child will usual resist having their playtime interrupted. Parents will end up frustrated and wondering what is so great about the potty.
As a last resort, some parents give kids a time out for not using the potty. This can serve as the child’s energy recharge. It doesn’t bother them a bit, but instead gives them a chance to think of places to hide and poop their pants where mommy and daddy won’t find them until they are done.
All children are different and what works for some may not work for others. Most strategies will have no effect on kids and when they decide to use the potty, which only causes more stress for parents. Kids will not potty train themselves. They need to be taught the basics and encouraged to use the potty, but in the end, they will go when they are ready, not when you are.