What does marital bliss mean? Is there really such a state of contentment in a marriage? Absolutely!
Webster’s dictionary describes bliss: Complete happiness; paradise or heaven. It is therefore easy to conclude that marital bliss would mean heaven on earth lived out with another human being in a marital relationship where two people are devoted to one another; complete marital happiness.
There are skeptics out there who do not believe this state exists; mainly because they are unable to comprehend what it is like to give up all of ones self to serve another without reservation for the complete pleasure of another. This dedication brings true bliss.
Being able to set ones mind on finding out what a marital partner likes, dislikes, hobbies and what makes them smile is a decision of the will. It doesn’t happen overnight. If one is truly wanting to love another human being, then sacrifice is the only way to enter this state. What transpires after and blissfully achieved is complete contentment with one another.
We have all seen older couples walking hand in hand down the street or in a mall, and couples of any age sitting together in a restaurant engaged in conversation oblivious to their surroundings or other people. These have found the secret of success in a relationship. Absolute bliss!
Self focus in any relationship is unsatisfying for both parties. The selfish one is never satisfied regardless of the amount of giving from the other person. The one giving is not satisfied either. Constant giving and never receiving is a pointless endeavor. Eventually their giving tank will be drained; leaving them exhausted mentally and emotionally.
Feeling unloved? Dissatisfied with relationships? Isolated and alone? Frustrated that your not “getting” enough of anything? The only remedy is to begin the selfless journey into giving to others regardless of what you get in return.
The most effective way to begin is to serve at a homeless or a battered women’s shelters Try serving once a week for a minimum of 6 weeks. Experience the emotions as each week unfolds. Take note of your reactions to the individuals; how you feel when you are around people who have absolutely nothing. Eventually feeling will surface to expose self centeredness and selfishness in yourself and hopefully compassion to give to the less fortunate.
Once the journey has begun personal relationships will change for the better. Only then will one be ready to commit to another human in a marital relationship that will produce Bliss!
There is a mentor/teacher Rabbi that teaches ongoing marital/parenting classes with a hilarious sense of humor. See website below to find out how to sign up.
Rabbi Steven Barrs, teaches Bliss marriage seminar classes in Bethesda, MD. www.getbliss.com.