You have probably heard it said, “Feed him with a long-handled spoon.” What does that expression mean? It simply means that there are certain people that you should keep at a distance for the benefit of all parties.
This does not mean that you don’t love or respect them. It means that you can get along better with them if you are not too close to them for a long period of time. It could also mean that you don’t trust them with your confidential information. You can love them, but you would do better if you don’t expect anything from them because they have disappointed you or hurt you in the past.
A long-handled spoon is an image of keeping your distance. If you are using a short-handled spoon you definitely have to be close to someone to feed them. However, you can still get along with some people if you are not always in their immediate presence. Feeding people with a long-handled spoon means being cordial to them when you are in their presence, but you don’t have to be “buddy buddy with them. You don’t have to tell them your innermost thoughts or your deepest secrets. Neither do you need to depend on them to support you in those things that are meaningful to you.
It might be hard to treat some people with a long-handled spoon because they are family or co-workers who are always in your midst. You can be around them when you have to, but you don’t have to depend on them for your well-being. If you have had difficulty with certain people in the past, there is nothing wrong with feeding them with a long-handled spoon.